Advice Archive

0August 12, 2011
The Only Way I’ll Date You…

Words to stitch and live by. Via.
0July 27, 2011
Dating Rules: Should You Say “I Love You” First?

From the “Rules that everyone tells you that are just plain stupid” files… Relationship rule myth: Never, and I mean never, say ‘I love you’ first. OK, suppose every single…
1June 9, 2011
Dating In This Economy Part One: Meeting Someone

Hey Alessia, With all this talk about people staying home in this economy, do you have any tips for meeting new people to date? I’m thinking going door-to-door is a…
0May 31, 2011
Walking The Line Of Bad Relationships

Kari wrote in: I was so glad to read your post on bad relationship signs – I saw myself in number 10. My husband has been two-timing me for at…
0April 30, 2011
The Sweet Smell of Sex

Over at Pretty Dumb Things, Chelsea Girl wondered about her committed relationship and why they were having less than stellar sex: And I have tried, I have tried and I…
0February 27, 2010
Dogs, Cats, Mr. Right, And Other Companion Animals

When making a list of qualities you are looking for in a mate, don’t overlook some of the basic fundamentals of companionship you’ve enjoyed in relationships with pets. Forget about…
2November 13, 2009
Does Makeup Keep You From Getting Laid? (Or, When He Professes He Likes The ‘Natural’ Look)

Don’t you just hate it when your man turns to you and says, “I like you better without make-up,” or makes some comment about how he “prefers the natural look”…
0November 3, 2009
Of But-Tirades & Tirades About Arsehole Jon Gosselin

While fellow Twolia bloggers are debating Kate Gosselin (here — which I agree with — and here), I thought I’d point out what you can learn from Jon Gosselin’s latest…
0October 29, 2009
The First Lady On What To Look For In Your Number One

This November, history will be be made when — for the first time in Glamour‘s 70-year history — a First Lady will appear on the cover of the magazine. Michelle…
0October 21, 2009
One Thing We All Can Do To Address Violence & Abuse In Relationships

People often ask me, the tireless big mouth on the subject of toxic relationships, what’s one thing anyone and everyone should do to prevent such bad relationships. My response is…
5October 15, 2009
13 Dating & Relationship Tips You (Should Have) Learned From Your Friendships In Junior High

“Don’t take your partner/spouse for granted.” We hear that all the time, but what does that really mean? It means treating your lover — and other family members too —…
0October 9, 2009
Tips For Dating A Married Man?!

At HelloBeautiful.com, Von-Anise McCoy posted No Judgement Fridays: Five Tips To Follow When Dating a Married Man. While I applaud the spirit of no judgements, and I certainly agree that…
0August 27, 2009
Dating Advice From The Past (Or Female Dating Snark, 1940 Style)

This article, written by an anonymous female, was published in The Bedside Esquire, 1940 — just see how well it holds up today *wink* The Wench Is Not Amused, by…
1July 24, 2009
This One’s For Jon & Kate

I know you’re probably sick of Jon & Kate + 8 talk, but… I just don’t get why people keep on calling Kate Gosselin the bitch when it’s so obvious…
0June 18, 2009
When He Just Wants To Get Into You

Vittorio at Toronto Men Unite, a blog encouraging “open and honest discussion” about “the problems many men face in the ‘trenches’ of modern dating,” writes the following in Why Men…
0June 17, 2009
Are Dating Messages Too Ambiguous? And What Does That Mean About Rape?

In the journal Personality and Individual Differences (Volume 47, Issue 2, July 2009, Pages 145-149), T. Joel Wade, Lauren K. Butrie & Kelly M. Hoffman present findings of a study…
0June 15, 2009
Settle Your Relationship Disagreements

Every relationship has its disagreements. The Fair & Square Pillow provides a daily reminder about how to deal with them and one another. (Perhaps you should get a pair of…
2June 4, 2009
Is Paying For Phone Sex Infidelity?

Hi Alessia, I’ve been happily but stressfully married to my husband for 5 years. I say “stressfully” because my job takes me away from home & to other countries for…
0May 29, 2009
Might As Well Just Hit Myself With A Rolled-Up Cosmo

The June issue of Cosmo has a cover screaming the usual predatory scare tactics about love, lust, sex and how not to be a fatty. But buried on page 44,…
4May 14, 2009
When He’s (Sexually) Shrinking From You, Violet

In response to my “Helping You Get In The Mood” Contest, Violet writes in: Hey, Alessia, I have the opposite problem — I’m always ready and my husband’s never ever…
5April 23, 2009
When You Are Surprised To Find A Relationship Deal Breaker After Three Years Of Dating

Ashley writes in with a personal problem stemming from the Steve Ward/Vh1 mess: Hi Alessia, I’ve been following along with the Steve Ward fiasco (what a piece of work that…